
Supportive Journaling for Youth Witnessing Domestic Violence at Home
“More than 15 million children in the United States live in homes in which
domestic violence
has happened at least once”
1 Office on Women’s Health, 2024
Witnessing domestic violence as a child can have impacts throughout a person’s life
1 Young boys who witness their mothers be abused are 10 times more likely to abuse a female partner
2 Children in abusive households are 15 times more likely to be sexually assaulted
3 70-90% of youth involved in the juvenile justice system witnessed violence at home
Intervening when individuals are young can prevent trauma when they are older
Journal Contents
Education
Youth learn about healthy, toxic, and abusive relationships. They reflect on how it feels to be in each and learn how to spot "red flags."
Breaking the Cycle
Attachment styles can influence the way we interact with others. Youth learn about how their own thoughts and behaviors can shape their relationships.
Coping
It can be hard to recognize what we are feeling. Youth learn how to understand their reactions and how to cope with strong emotions. They practice skills and find sources of strength.
Patterns of Thinking
Youth learn about unhelpful thinking and learn how to recognize untrue thoughts. They practice changing their own narrative to promote healthy thinking patterns.
Building Boundaries
Youth learn about what setting boundaries for themselves looks like. They practice responding to unmet expectations for verbal, emotional, and physical boundaries.
Safety Planning
Youth practice emotional and physical safety planning. They reflect on safe spaces and learn about the peer-to-peer resources for when life becomes too much.
Coping with Conflict
Tools for healthy communication during conflict are described to help youth develop better ways to respond to stress. They practice using "skills to respond" rather than reacting out of emotion.
Empowerment
Youth grow their resilience by empowering themselves. They practice recognizing their strengths, reflect on what they are grateful for, and practice saying "no."
Becoming part of the solution
Originally, the journal was created to be used only through marking up a PDF. The change to selling physical copies is to increase access for youth who don’t have the digital devices needed to download and write on a PDF, and to meet the needs of those who work best with physical copies.
Hello!
As a senior student in a Bachelor’s of Social Work program, I completed my practicum placement at a domestic violence resource agency in Tacoma. When recognizing how little support is available for youth, especially youth seeking support without parental knowledge, the idea of creating a journal was formed.
My work history is strengthened through working with kids in multiple settings - a peer-to-peer mental health hotline, an emotional crisis intervention program geared towards youth who witnessed death, case management for young adults struggling in college, residential sexual offense rehabilitation for male youth, juvenile corrections in another country, and a hospital setting for youth experiencing severe mental/behavioral health challenges. Using these experiences combined with my education and work at the domestic violence agency, I created a journal that allows youth to learn about patterns of abuse, coping skills, healthy conflict resolution, safety planning, and more.
The content was chosen both from evidence based models and my own personal experience. Growing up, I witnessed domestic violence at home. The content in this journal is driven just as much by lessons I had to learn the hard way as they are by research. My goal is that youth who utilize this journal can learn some of these skills through practice rather than mistakes and they can learn to foster healthy relationships just like I have.
Contact
Comments or suggestions? Reach out to me!
1 Office on Women’s Health, 2024. Effects of domestic violence on children. womenshealth.gov
2 University of Texas Medical Branch, 2008. Domestic Violence and Children.
3 Branson, Baetz, Horwitz, Hoagwood, 2017. Trauma-informed juvenile justice systems: A systematic review of definitions and core components. doi: 10.1037/tra0000255